tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735243446539791981.post1237172767831488805..comments2023-03-25T08:18:50.036-04:00Comments on JASON ORTIZ: IN MY WORDS: THE ATTRACTION TO THE MARRIED MAN/WOMANJASON M. ORTIZhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07576103016809163256noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735243446539791981.post-67739830653575074962011-07-22T01:20:04.640-04:002011-07-22T01:20:04.640-04:00I have read several articles about "women who...I have read several articles about "women who choose date married men", and those women or having low self esteem. In several cases, this may be true. However, there is a side to this type of relationship that people don't look at. "Selfishness" definitely has a part to play in these type of relationships, but another aspect that has yet to be explored, is knowing this person is taken, and that the married man "will never commit to you", and being OK with this fact. You may ask the question "Why would someone be OK with knowing that the married man "will never commit", will "never" leave their wife for them? The reason is because, when you know what situation you allow yourself to be in, you are fully aware of the repercussion; For example, you know you will never get to spend time with your "lover" on the major holidays, Christmas, Thanksgiving, New Years, etc. Because the wife/husband/family, has top priority. You get to see your "lover" the day before or after the holiday. The more "understanding", you are about these facts, the more that married person is willing to compensate you for the time spent away. (Usually Financially). There is also the fact that you have to be "careful", because if the wife finds out, "The Gig is Up", which means no "compensation", so you will do whatever it takes to keep the wife from knowing as well, so that you can continue reaping whatever benefits you are receiving. Women who date married men know that there is a woman involved, so they fell like they have the "power"in the relationship because "forewarned is forearmed" you have the ability to put the "emotional wall" up early on, vs being with someone who tells you that they are single, and have no children, only to find out 6 months, or two years into the relationship that there is a wife, 2 kids, a house, and a dog named Max. As long as the other woman does not let her "emotional wall" down, (the other woman usually does), she can get that married man to give her whatever she wants, and when he doesn't, the "I'm gonna tell your wife" threat, usually puts the "man" back into submission. Meanwhile, the real victim of the situation,(the wife)is committed to keeping the marriage together, although she knows something is going on, she just can't prove it, the husband starts off thinking he gonna "have his cake and eat it too", but in the end, he is getting slowly manipulated, but just doesn't see it, and the "other woman", "mistress", "homewrecker" is reaping the benefits of being the "other woman", "mistress", "homewrecker", etc. And if the husband is not careful, he will fall for the manipulation tactics of the mistress, because she listens to him, is so, understanding, she does things sexually his wife doesn't do, and eventually the husband will be packing his bags. This does not commonly happen, but remember, there is "always" an exception to the rules. So in lay man's terms. When someone steps out of a committed relationship, no matter what the reason, understand that the person you choose to cheat with, may not be the desperate, lonely, low self esteem having victim at all, she may have a hidden agenda, and will keep up the facade to get whatever she wants, for as long as she wants. Is losing your family worth it? I think not.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735243446539791981.post-8490238856345131982011-05-22T17:25:09.673-04:002011-05-22T17:25:09.673-04:00There is always an exception to the rule.. With th...There is always an exception to the rule.. With that being said, self esteem has played the part in these type of situations many times. There are many reasons, one could be selfishness, self destruct behavioral or dozens of others. Some use convienence as a crutch and disregard others peoples feelings because of their selfish ways. There really are many reasons. I can't debate yours because there are far too many to pinpoint but mine explained are valid because they exist more common in that situation than not.<br />I appreciate your comment.JASON M. ORTIZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07576103016809163256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735243446539791981.post-11285115089243713062011-05-22T15:49:18.253-04:002011-05-22T15:49:18.253-04:00Hello, respectfully, I totally disagree with the L...Hello, respectfully, I totally disagree with the Low Selfesteem issue due to dating a married person. I date a married man and would be / AM upset that he wants to leave his marriage and be with me exclusively. The man that I Love is in prison and we will be resume our relationship when he gets home. Most of the men i meet want more than friendship with me and SEX isn't involved, just plenty of laughs, talking ang good companionship. so, since i run into this situation too often, its easier, well thought it was easier to I have NO Self Esteem Issues, I know that being NOT the right thing to do, however it works for my situation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com