RAPE & ABUSE.. WE NEED TO TAKE THE POWER BACK & PREVENT THE HORROR

This particular blog was not an easy one for me. The horrible nature of rape and abuse digs deep within my soul. It is something so disgusting that I often (no exaggeration) feel a tight queasy feeling in my stomach. I knew that in order to be as effective with helping as I wanted to I needed to talk with a dear friend of mine, whom I love as a person and friend but also because she has an intellectual capacity to grasps things even I may overlook. To make her partnering on this blog much more effective, she is a writer, editor and above all, a...

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FAMILY TIES.. IF IT WAS ONLY LIKE TV

Dear Mr. Lover Man My boyfriend’s mom is such a b#tch. Sorry for the language but I really don’t know how else to express this. It’s like she can’t see him with a woman and it drives me nuts. She still hovers over him; every time I’m over she has to give me the look over, at times rolling her eyes and even ignores me. I want to tell my man these things but I don’t know how he will react. I also want to slap his mother but that isn’t who I am, even though the thought makes me smile. I don’t really understand how someone could be so dramatic and...

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AN ODE TO THE REAL DADS... HAPPY FATHERS DAY

The time of year has come where it is time to acknowledge the hard work of the real men whom have not just created but made a powerful or most powerful impact in the lives of their child(ren). The men whom have not just defied odds but have done so in the media’s shadow of the lame Dad, of the run away dad, of the child support only dad. The wrong dads are being highlighted on your televisions and in your conversations. The real Dads quietly move forward with no glory in mind, no validation (although it would be nice) and no bitterness, we simply...

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TIME TO LET IT GO

Dear Mr. Lover Man, Recently I broke things off with the guy I was seeing. (We will call him Robert) I was really into him, but I just couldn't seem to see where he was into me and decided to stop wasting my time. After almost 9 months, I got tired of the extreme effort. I moved on and have been meeting some absolutely wonderful guys who are real gentlemen. It was not until I broke up with Robert that he actually started to show emotion. Before he was just hard on the exterior. I believe it was because he had been hurt in the past and didn't...

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