Saturday, March 30, 2013


Such a fitting topic to always visit and revisit at any moment as "Temptation" often enters our lives. Sadly, too many selfishly fall into its grips, never fully taking into account the feelings of others impacted.
I just saw Tyler Perry's "Temptation" last night with a good friend and I must say that the moral of the story was fitting. Now there will be a very gender biased response to the movie as I have already been receiving such in my emails, Facebook messages and so forth. 
I do not want to make this post about the opinions of the acting or story line so much as the message. 
It is important to understand that you will face new occurrences, meet new people and see new things that will all in its own way, make you think that new is better than what you have. It may be fun and flashy and often make you smile but that doesn't necessarily make it better. 
In a relationship, two major problems that can be fixed are routine and communication. The reason it doesn't is often we become set in a certain way, not intentionally but we are creatures of habit. When one person finds themselves losing an ounce of happiness, it is the parties right and duty to communicate this and come to a ground that uplifts each individual and the union as a whole.
Relationships take work and without the willingness to do so, why even enter one?
Do not let the person who makes you smile when you are down come across as the savior because piss doesn't look so bad next to shit, but it is still piss.
Temptation is new, not as a word but it is always something different, something new, something that may mislead you to think it gives life. Temptation gives you a jolt that is probably missing but you can get that jolt back in your relationship if you communicate, change routine and keep it fresh. Do not let your relationship dull to find something sharp and new only to be cut at the end. 
Think about whats most important because relationships do not go smoothly daily, they take work. Especially marriages. Of course there are reasons to move on but one must truly evaluate before one gives in. In a relationship you can NOT have the "I'm doing me" attitude or the "I need to have fun" thought process. If you feel you are young and have a lot of living to do, then do it single. You do not have the right to mislead others and because you fear loneliness, drag others through your life of deceit and heartache. 
Everyone does not have to be in a relationship right now today and that is fine, but be honest with self and others and you will find that Temptation from the wrong things will not be so hard to ignore. 

For those that saw the movie and thought that the ending was wrong, sad or extreme, I promise you that I have seen this result on many occasions. One person goes and thinks new is better only to find truth after the flash, fun and "new" becomes "old". The female contracting HIV, getting beat up and losing a great man was fitting in this movie. Sad in real life but such a hard and great lesson for those that watch it. It was nice to see the man who was faithful and loyal and although routine was his error, communication could have saved them. It was nice to see him move on and have a great family. 
Sad overall but lessons like this must seen on the screen before it becomes your life.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

communication is always the key to every human interaction with one another, personal, business, work, home, any where and every where....

most marriage fail due to lack of communication, not because of financial or family issues but i believe it all starts with going through the every day routine...

people, both male and females tend to cheat, or entertain the idea of doing so because they no longer feel the *spark* as i like to call it.

think about it, when you first meet someone everything is so blissful....cheery, happy, its all smiles and you cant wait to see what else is going to happen....the thrill and anticipation....all the attention driven towards one another....all the similarities....everything seems so you tie the knot...get what happened to those two perfect, yet separate individuals who used to be so head over heals for one another? the're married now, no need to impress, just got stress. dont want to let your spouse know certain things because it might upset them....but what happened to the best friends they used to be? dont let a title such as marriage let you and your relationship change...dont let your marriage become a routine....each day do something different...creativity goes a long way. you're never too old to do silly things and keep yourself young. if you hold your other half's attention and show them you love them...have a balanced relationship with other people besides the two in the relationship(such as friends or family), have time to yourself, attempt to have an excellent communication skills with one another no matter how bad situations get, most likely it will turn out to be a successful relationship than the ones that fail....but what do i know? i've never bin married.....

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