I am a married young women in my late 20's who just recently ( as recent as January) decided to separate from my current marriage...
In late October i met someone who we just communicated via email/im's etc... Online stuff, (we met online) as the months progress so did our friendship, we grew closer, as close as us both falling in love with each other ....he's is the same situation with a slight difference .. married but NOT separated...
Of course we see each other, but that's very limited (as to our situation) and that's really starting to bother me, i'm feeling needy, wanting more, desiring his company at all times... missing him terribly, but then i engage some negative thoughts as to "does he miss me as much as i do" I’m always doubting and seeking re-assurance of his love.....i don't know what to think anymore.....I wondering, should i just let him go??forbiddenLove......
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear Forbidden Love,
For the record, you are just the other woman. Your situation is not the same as you are more emotionally available being that you are separated. He is not and wont be as long as he can make love to his wife and fuck you at will. You have absolutely no right to want more because you are just the side piece. You say you both are in love but maybe you are misleading yourself, maybe you are way more emotionally attached than him and he is having his cake and eating it too. You need to heal within and re-evaluate what you believe your self worth to be. You need to find your soul and increase self love and learn to convey that to a single healthy relationship. Maybe even see counseling. I wish you the best always, please keep me posted. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Tips on to improve your relationship and sex life with your partner…
So many times in a relationship partners tend to lose communication as so many factors dull the situation, such as bills, kids driving you crazy, new found responsibilities that didn’t exist as a couple in the early stages. Communication can diminish and this can lead to destruction of what could remain beautiful. Regain focus, take a moment and ask yourself how much worth is this relationship and do you really want to save it. Ask yourself why do you want to save it and when you safely answered those questions, try new methods of communication.
Be less demanding, stop reminding one of chores in a annoying fashion, show concern in your words, don’t forget the friendship, laugh together, and remember that respect is warranted in a relationship.
Do things together, go out and be creative within your financial means and show affection. Show appreciation to your partner, no matter the gender, everyone wants to be appreciated. Never be too busy for your relationship. I don’t care what your work hours are, if you really love this person and want this relationship to work then you will. If you are letting it slowly die without a care for love, and you are just complacent then let it go.
Sexual improvements are not hard either, once again we must use communication. So many people allow frustration to set in, yet they haven’t even communicated efficiently with their partners about their sexual drives. Never make the assumption your partner is the gift in bed and talk before, during if need be and after. Make sure you both are set on pleasing one another and both are attentive to each others needs.
Don’t be afraid to take turns with total domination of pleasing the other. One can service the other in total, leaving the other one at the pleasurable mercy in exploration of fulfilling the communicative actions expressed in earlier conversation. Try new places, and I don’t mean the bathroom and kitchen, you should have already tried that. Take a trip, be spontaneous, do not ever take the relationship for granted. Do not ever assume because this is significant other that they will just always be there and you can always postpone the sex. Take charge and make it sexy again, take control and elaborate your love physically and show how much they mean to you with total worship of their body. Insert your fantasies and inquire about your partners and make them real. Work through all short comings or unpleasurable acts with communication, express your stance and why you will or will not do something. Choose caring words always. Learn to touch your partner all over without intercourse. Appreciate their bodies for its beauty and not just for sexual thrashing. Rebuild your sex life with what works and create something amazing around that. Add, subtract, do all you can and you will be high that you will be looking down on cloud nine.
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