NO SEX IN THIS CITY??.. HOW TO MAKE IT BETTER

Dear Mr. Lover Man,

How can one increase the sexual activity in a relationship that seems to have reduced in the course of time? Between working long shifts and my husband working shifts, its either we are too tired or finding ourselves in position to cover everything else to maintain the home. What can I do to spark the relationship exually again? This is a 12 year relationship with the last 2 years dull in the sack if in the sack at all. Thank you much. “I Want That Old Thing Back”


MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear “I Want That Old Thing Back”,
This seems to be more common than anyone wants and there are ways to conquer without abandoning the relationship. Communicate these issues, don’t nag them, don’t make a complaint into a denate, speak about concerns and try to implement solutions, like maybe you guys may want to consider making a special “sex day” where you post it on the refrigerator, it can heighten sexual pleasure as these days get closer. Also never be afraid to stop him in the middle of his tracks for a quickie, bring that explosiveness back. The best quickies are before work, not even coffee can start your day better. Do things you once did in your earlier stages of dating, leave little notes of love and appreciation. Buy fancy underwear and pop up out of nowehere while he is on the couch (not during the super bowl ha ha) and just straddle him. Do not allow him time to talk, learn him again and make him remember whats missing. Make a date to go out and do things that are not sex related, feel his passion and love again, talk, renew your vows unofficially. There are so many ways to revive what seems to be a sexually frustrated relationship. We seem to feel time is aginst us, but we can always squeeze time in if it means that much to us. Good luck and please keep me posted.


Dear Mr. Lover Man,
I don’t know what im doing wrong but my girl told me she gets turned on by fingering her, so I try to do that and im thinking im doing something wrong because she doesn’t seem too thrilled by it. Maybe im doing something wrong. What do you suggest because I really want to please her, she is the love of my life and she is my only partner, I am 21 and she is 25 and we have been together 9 months and I really want to make her happy. Is there like a special fingering move I can learn? Thanks from “Handy Man”


MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear Handy Man,
Well, first thing, I commend you for your willingness to be unselfish and wanting to please your partner the best way possible. Before I give any form of advice or any description on how to position your fingers, make sure you always communicate when in doubt (or not in doubt). Ask her how she feels, communicate before hand and tell her you want to learn to please her and need her guidance until you perfect it. It is her body, it is the woman you confess your love to, so why not speak about it? Communication is the most vital part of any relationship. Now try this here, inserting your index finger and your middle finger slowly, making sure she is either self lubricated or assisted you want to have those two fingers belly up. You want to make sure the middle finger finger reaches as far as you can alsmost to the belly button where you will feel what is now being considered the “A-Spot”, this is a zone of pleasure, at the same time your index finger will be bent slightly so not to reach as far as the middle, where you will be at the “G-Spot” while having your thumb right outside in a thumbs upposition playing with the clitoris. This not only touched 3 vital points of pleasure but will definitely enhance whatevers next to come. Don’t be savage about it, allow her to dictate the amount of pressure and speed required for her pleasure and you will become the king of the golden hand. Good luck with everything.



Dear Mr. Lover Man,
How can I convince my boyfriend to let me tie him up or handcuff him to the bed. This is really something that I get my most sexual pleasure from but my man is really not trying to budge. I mean we been together for 3 years, he should trust me, I would let him do it, what should I do to get him to pleasure me by letting me do this? Thanks a million, “Lisa”


MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear “Lisa”,
This can be a hard sell, but before you try to become sales person of the year, take a few things in consideration, have you communicated about his level of trust, maybe he has been traumatized at some point and he hasn’t been able to discuss this and that’s why being unable to have the ability to roam free at will may not be the turn on it is for you. Is it impossible to get him to try it? Of course not. Will this guarantee he will try it? Of course not. However, it will open up some areas of much needed communication that has been lacking in your world. You assume he should trust you, and maybe he does but does he trust the situation? Ask him. You say you would let him do it, but have you offered it? You should, you should introduce videos of the same nature while expressing what it is that turns you on and how your being turned on will benefit his sexual pleasure. You seem to have just wanted it done but you need effective communication, try thoat and you may just have your wish. Don’t forget to have a spare key for those handcuffs. Good luck with everything.




Dear Mr. lover Man,
Why does it seem that all the sexual fun is in the begginning then it gets boring? I have been with 4 different men in my life and cant be sexually satisfied with them past two years. What can happen to keep me interested longer than two years? I really find the same few positions boring and although those are my faorites, it isnt like he is going to change his width, size or strength in his stroke. It gets boring and I need someone new but I really love this guy and don’t want to keep sleeping around. What is the best thing to do? “Two years is not enough”


MR. LOVER MAN SAYS Dear :”Two years is not enough”
Unfortunately, in many relationships the participants allow the fire to dim. You play a role as well, it isnt about your partners ability to grow in ways that are not possible, or for him to gain a super human pump strength to fit your new found needs overnight, it is about your willingness to communicate and want it to enhance so much that you invest in communication and you become willing to also try new things outside of the few positions deemed your favorite. Make it spicier, be more spontaneous, talk more, grab him out of no where, pin him to the wall, service him, have him return it. Be willing to watch movies and be educated together on the willingness to invite new sexual positions, toys, foods, etc into your relationship. Be more than those constant two years you deliver/receive. Men and women both are not as sexually educated as they wish, many arent fully aware of their bodies sexual potential or the full potential the body feels in pleasure. Sex can and often does heighten the chemistry and is healthy for the relationship. Be more than sex with your partner, but when you are sex, be fun, new, spontaneous and amaze him. This will infect him with the equal willingness to do so in return.

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SEXUALITY ON AN INDIVIDUAL BASIS

Dearest Mr. Lover Man, My concern is as far as BSDM I'm extremely fascinated with bondage sex especially when the woman is allowed to be dominate. I do watch bondage porn and get turned on by it. I have been dominated by a male before, worn a collar and leash, been tied, whipped, paddled, gagged, blindfolded etc. I have a wonderful man, that hasn't really tried it too much yet and is willing. I would like to be more in the dominate role as a female without turning him off from it. Such as him wearing a collar, tie him up, using the whip on him or the gag on him. I would even like to wear a strap on and he sucks the dildo. I would like to bring these ideas up him as gently as possible. It is something new, and I don't want to place him in an uncomfortable spot. It does turn me on and it would love to try and share this with him but it's more enjoyable when both parties agree. What are ways to address this issue where both of us can benefit? Thank you, Rose

MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear Rose
New sexual acts can tend to be uncomfortable and can even shift the direction of the relationship if delivered wrong. For example, asking a man to suck a dildo you have strapped on can shut him down or turn him off, however, during conversation, expressing why it turns you on, how much you appreciate it and showing him the porn you have watched without him may lead him to expanding his sexual horizons and stretch his willingness to please you in these ways. Now in this introduction, you must not be selfish at all. Consider his feelings, learn his sexual interest, his past, his every turn on and find a way to morph that and incorporate the two worlds so you both can make it everlasting. Many men may not give in for a while, some never but find common ground, do not be fussy or pushy because numbers show that’s some of the worst sex, when one party does not really want to do something and does it just to get it over with. Sex should never have any party in that frame of mind, ever. As for collars, whips, paddles and so forth, this is not something every person will enjoy, as a matter of fact; there is always an act someone will not enjoy. Teach yourself to be open-minded to it and to be willing to readjust and maybe tone down to welcome him into a world that may be foreign. You never know, you may be turning him on to some of the greatest sex he has ever had. Good luck, please keep me posted.

Dear Mr. Lover Man,
I’m having this problem. Well I don’t really see this as a problem, but my friends do. I’m attracted to rugged looking men with beards, rough hands, rough complexion and simple talks. There are a few men who are after me, trying at me for a date, but I won’t let them; these men are clean cut well established educated men. Yet I’m just not into them. Their speech is a turn off. My friends all thinks that I’m crazy and that I need to have my head examine by a professional. What do you think? Anonymous

MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear Anonymous,
Allow me to say that this is not foreign at all. There could be so many things happening here and ill touch a few. There is a sexual perception about this type of man as opposed to the other which does not drive you, it is believed by many that the rugged man with simple talks are passionately aggressive and very sexually inclined and that could be a factor in the attraction. You mention that speech is a turn off for the educated man and that’s interesting and leads me to wonder how deep this goes. I do not think you are crazy but there is something underneath the surface that makes me wonder. I think that a professional assessment would not be bad and it may open you to answers. In the world we live in, Tarzan is much more attractive than Bill Gates. You know what you find attractive and many people look at status over inner substance but there should always be individuality in people that reach someone. Then there is the inferiority of dealing with someone well educated and with a certain “speech” and I wonder if that is what we are talking about here. I know men and women alike who deal with people financially inferior, educationally inferior in order to remain dominate and comfortable in their own skin. Seeking professional help for a session or two can guide into answers. Please keep me posted, good luck.

Mr. Lover Man.....I have been struggling with a question for the past 4yrs now. My fascination is with oral sex more so than vaginal or anal. I get more turned on by anything that concerns the mouth, face, hair, etc. As far as oral is concerned it's not a man eating my vagina, that's my hype. I get more aroused by sucking on my man's penis than him taking care of me. For me mentally it's almost like an obsession. I love giving oral to my man a few times thru out the day, while wearing a vibrator. I love deep throating, swallowing always being faced sexed and even waking my man up to it in the middle of the night. I also enjoy the open mouth gags, large dildos any large item being placed in my mouth. My friends often make jokes about me doing this so often esp. considering the fact I doing on my man more so than him giving me oral. I do enjoy him giving me oral but it turns me on more pleasing him. This has been an ongoing issue for me for a while. So my concern is, is there more going on as far as psychologically or could this just be my intense sexual preference? Anonymous

MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear Anonymous
I will say that there are a few things going on here, I stand, applaud and commend your ability to want to please your man and finding great pleasure in it. Oral fixation is huge in the world, I know of cases where some people cannot have sex without oral leading the way first, there is a dominating/submissive position with oral sex. Usually the one giving the oral sex is the submissive in the unwritten role and it is a different pleasing for the individual receiving the pleasure. However, there comes a point where the role has reverse and the giver is the person in power, depending on the type of oral action. The oral movement does vary from the vaginal and anal cavities and allows a different control for the giver. I believe that control and that power to control another’s pleasures can be addicting and can also be pleasuring. I know of a woman who orgasms from giving oral sex to men and loves the control aspect. Could there be something deeper? Of course there is. There may have been a point where you may have been hurt, cheated on or used in some form and this has enabled you to feel stronger in holding on and gives you more control than you have had before this became a normal part of you. Gagging has become flattering and thrilling for men for many reasons and some cases I know, women have told me the filling of their mouths gives them a sense of strong role sexually. It is almost like a conquering feeling for them. Your friends critique should mean nothing; it’s what works for you and your man that counts here. Good luck with everything and please do not look at your sexual activity as a negative, it appears that you intend to please your partner, look to find pleasure in him pleasing you too. There is a great pleasure for him in doing so.

To Mr. Lover Man, Please tell me what is wrong with me, maybe it is not me, and so tell me what’s wrong with my man. He watches porn and I can’t stand it. I think porn is fake and slutty and does nothing but give men fantasies about woman that isn’t theirs. What can I do to take him away from porn because I don’t think it’s normal to watch porn when you have a girlfriend? This will make me happy. Danielle

MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear Danielle,
This is actually a question I have stumbled across more times than I thought I would and there are many reasons I have been asked. More importantly, before we go into it, I will say that there is absolutely nothing wrong or unhealthy with watching porn. Now of course I mean porn with consenting and legal adults acting while committing legal acts and anyone watching is a consenting adult. People can use porn in quite unhealthy ways but in your case you did not mention any being used. Your perception of porn is your view and really isn’t fair to him to impose this if that’s what you are doing. In a relationship there are ways to express concern without demoralizing ones interest. I feel that you need to dig within self here and find out what is it that you feel the competitive strike from women in porn for. Your disdain is so strong, yet I don’t see why? Do you feel jealous that he has an entertainment from watching other people perform sexually? Have you tried to communicate with him about this and try to understand his sexuality in total? In relationships good partners do so and I think you both should have longer talks and explore more about each other, express your concerns and don’t be afraid to use your sexuality to sway him away from the internet/television when he is in porn mode. He may just give you an overwhelming service. One last thing I want to address is that fantasies are not unhealthy either; many women have fantasies about actors and R&B singers, is this just as stupid in your book? You both have the right to have your needs addressed and attended to with full attention. State your concerns respectfully and allow him to do the same. I wish you the best of luck. Please keep me posted.

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Caring Enough Will Improve Your Sex Life

I often hear men and women alike brag about their sexual performance and I often ask their partner in private and get a totally different perception to the lover’s performance. Now that is not something to laugh at, often men are misguided by the activities of pornography and think every woman is built to handle a physical thrashing like the women on their favorite website. Men think because women always tell them how good they are or they fake orgasms that they truly fit this title and they never progress. That’s shame on the liar. Women tend to talk about how well she moves it and brag about how her vagina is this tight, this wet and does this trick and in reality, so does most vaginas. There is more to being a better lover than the penis and vagina and if you doubt this then you have a lot to learn and many partners to abandon you.


Let’s start with the MEN:

First thing I say is MOST important is the level of respect one treats their partner when being a lover. It’s not a self serving prophecy to jump on your partner pump fast and hard, release your juices and call it a night. Men you should make it MANDATORY to learn what makes your partner climax best, that’s your duty as her lover.

Are you aware that 83% of women state that they are not kissed enough during their sexual/love making sessions? I don’t even know if this needs an explanation. Stop focusing on only the oral, anal and vaginal!!!! There is more you idiot!! K=Learn to give intimate kisses in these i ntimate times.

Oral sex. Nuff said.

Ok, I’ll speak on it a bit. The best way to prepare a woman (statistically) for the greatest pleasurable sex is to definitely ad oral sex in the mix. One must learn to arouse her, relax her and heighten the moment with the power of the oral in order to make this possible. I won’t go into details but learn what makes your partner quiver and moan, convulse and collapse and you are ahead of the game for total preparation for love making.

Find out what your partner wants, communicate with her and learn everything about her. Do NOT be judgmental if her sexual drive or desires differ from yours, be open-minded and ask questions. This is not about you buddy but about you both. You want her then learn to communicate effectively and share with her. Be willing to try new things and don’t expect to be an expert right away, learn it and master it and you will see dramatic changes.

Pay attention to her erogenous zones and learn her body as much as she does or better. Men tend to think attacking the breast and clitoris are the best ways to turn her on enough to give her a good slamming and that is very juvenile. The g-spot, belly button, neck, inner thighs, back of the knees, lower back and even ear lobes on some women can heighten mood stimulation and bring arousal levels to an extreme high. Let her know you love turning her on, express how good it feels to kiss her and to love her and give her attention. Saying how good it feels to be inside her is nice but who doesn’t say that? Learn to be more than the guy who just had sex.

Now we mentioned the g-spot and let me tell you that there are myths and rumors about this and people often don’t know what the heck they are talking about when it comes to this. I often overhear wrong information passed over and just want to laugh. I often tell people who have trouble finding the g-spot, “Have you asked her if your there?” Men really don’t want to ask because they often have their manhood measured by sexual performance and that with the mix of a lying woman who fakes orgasms, you both are doomed to fail. Women should create a comfort level for this type of talk and men should not e afraid to ask, it shows your concern for her pleasure.

Now statistically 3 of the best g-spot hitting positions are so common and yet the right shift here or there will give that right touch that will drive her wild. First one is the infamous “Doggystyle”. This position is usually the man behind slamming into her, but not today it isn’t. Allow the lady to have the control, yes fellas it is not a bad thing. Let her use her thighs to press back as she is crouched down, this gives her the ability to find the best depth and position for the right thrust that works best for her. It is ok to become more involved and active after she finds this, adjust to this position and push her down lay into her from behind. And this will enable your penis (no matter the size) to push in at a downward angle and gives access to hitting the g-spot. Open her legs, close them, ut ask to find out which one best suit her please. Plus there is something about the animalistic positioning of doggy style that gives men pleasure, so it’s a win/win.

Second is you standing or kneeling down with her legs on your shoulders. Keep her legs spread wide on your shoulders and get creative, the angle will deliver the thrust needed to e a g-spot pro.

Third is having the woman on top. Yes this old common position can be a g-spot hitter if she is controlling depth, speed, tension and the intensity level. This gives her the ability to move, grind, lean in any position she feels fit to adjust for that hit. Talk to her while she rides you into the sunset, tell her how it feels, how you want her to feel and how wonderful, sexy and gorgeous she is. There is almost no greater sight than a woman riding you and looking at you will the face of every emotion. The talking is mental stimulation, and that is as important if not more than the physical aspect.

Also remember, when the physical act is over, allow her to determine how quick you go to sleep or jump in a shower. Men have been known to be insensitive in this area but both genders do so. Recap the act, tell her how much you enjoyed it, cuddle with her, tell her how special she is and how special the moment was.

WOMEN, now don’t think I forgot you:

Leave something for the mind, let his imagination run wild and want you more. Most people assume a woman’s position by what she wears. Maintain a level of class and integrity and you can still be sexy, gorgeous, and a stand out. Learn to incorporate class and sexy together and you will have them running to you.

Despite what miserable, bitter women say, men love independent women with a good self esteem. A man likes to play the hero, the giver, the protector but he also needs a partner and not a daughter. Men are driven by a string woman and love to have a woman who knows her worth. This keeps him on point, he knows his woman is strong and no push over and allows a loving challenge and pushes both further. If you doubt this, that’s because you attract losers and you need to re-evaluate yourself. When men tell you how wonderful you are, it feels good that you know he speaks truth and not that he has to waste the moment to convince you. Love yourself in order to love him.

Love your physical self as well. Men love women who flaunt for their man, and find it so hard to e extremely turned on y a woman who hides her body or doesn’t show herself to him at all in any sexual way. Your body is yours, learn to love it. You have your partner and he loves it, don’t shy it away from him. Love yourself, inside and out.

Men love a woman who is not afraid to express that she wants sex and she loves it. Sex should NEVER be forbidden language for adults and should be as great conversation and comfortable as any other, especially with partners. Ladies, being sexually confident will not only drive him insanely sexual for you but will most likely make him loyal. Study shows that sexually confident women and sexually open women have much more loyal men than those that aren’t. Talk dirty or learn to. This does not devalue you; it actually gives you more sexual value with your partner. Ask him if he likes it (9out of 10 men do) and learn to describe what you want by him. This will heighten the sex from good to great.

Never wait for him to make the sexual advances, that is not the gender role and one should think individually, do NOT assume men are mind readers and know exactly every time you are in heat. Grab him, kiss him, tell him how hot he makes you by his simple stride to the kitchen, touch him, whisper in his ear…. But….. not during sports. LOL That’s funny.

Give him direction and show him what turns you on, and do not assume because he has a penis that he has been sleeping with everyone and should know your body. Teach him, give him opportunities to learn your body, guide him to your spots and talk him through it in a sexy way. Do not damage his ego if he does it wrong, learn to talk him through it and lean him into perfection. Have patience and know that you guys have time to perfect every inch of your bodies.

Another thing that should be avoided is getting upset when he suggests something new. Do not make him feel belittled or weird about his suggestion, only be willing to do something new if you expect him to. This is a partnership and one should only do what the other is expected to do. If you are 100% not willing to try then say so and explain why without making him feel like a weirdo or disgusting in anyway. This turns him off with you. Just as you would e if he told you what turns you on is nasty, disgusting, yuck, horrible, etc.

Be adventurous and live at times on the wild side. This enables you to be open-minded, free-spirited and grabs his attention unlike another. Learn him and suggest acts that cater to his personality, show him that you pay attention and ignore your friend’s advice; chances are that’s the wrong advice.

Sense of humor is important in turning a man on. Men love women that have wit, charm and a good laugh. He doesn’t mind being playful, no matter how tough he comes across as, he would love to be playful with just you. Humor is attractive, broaden your horizons and you will be a much happier woman in a wonderful place.

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Sexual in the City

Mr. Lover Man,
My boyfriend wants to try anal sex with me and I have a few concerns about this. The pain is a major concern. He wants to try anal beads also and I never tried this, please explain to me these anal beads and what can I do or he do to make our anal sex experience less painful. I love him and really want to try this with him but I am nervous.
Willing to try

MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear “Willing to try”, Welcome to the world in modern times. These days “Anal” is the new “Oral” or as my friends in the porn industry say “The ass is the new pussy”. Men tend to get ideas of sexual activity from porn, and these days anal sex is the biggest wave in porn, it almost seems to be as frequent as vaginal sex. One thing I will say is do NOT use anything that will num the area. So many people do this and never realize that you NEED to know if something is painful or not, that way it can be stopped. Something just may be going terribly wrong. Pain is a vital sign that lets you know that something must stop. I say you must be relaxed, tensing the anus is not good at all, make sure you have your sexual charges up. You should be turned on and in the mood for some sexual pleasuring, make sure foreplay exists and even vaginal and oral sex to pre-perform the anal sex. Build it up and heighten the moment. Lubrication is recommended always. I know some instances where women can e so wet that the juices flow but should not be the only wetness in the anal area. Use basic lube, not no fancy crap, that doesn’t help at all. Also remind your boyfriend that the anal cavity is not the vagina and pushing in hard and fast can tear something. One must go slow at first, it will give the penis the chance to enter painlessly. Anal play with fingers and small toys should be a strong consideration. Anal sex can be 100% painless with the right attention, time and effort. Most women who tell me of the pain stories had partners who only wanted to please themselves or who wanted to dominate the anus and never gave it the time and attention need to feel its pleasure zones. As for anal beads, well these toys are designed to give pleasure as they are inserted and gently pulled out the to make your sphincter muscles open and close giving charges of pleasuring sensations. Here is a little tip, have anal beads inserted and slowly pulled out as you are reaching the peak of climax, I promise you that you will not reach a thrilling sensation filled with so much eroticism for quite some time. For the best and most painless anal sex, I do NOT recommend the highly popular doggy style, but, offer you try missionary with your pelvic area supported by pillows.

 
Dear Mr. Lover Man
I have been with my woman for 2 yrs. Things are good but I feel like I don’t know what to do. She always talks about 3 somes and group sex as her fantasies and I feel like if I don’t give in I will lose her. She says she wants to start off with me, her and a girl. Then she said she wants it to lead in the future to her and other men and I am very uncomfortable with this. She talks about these sex group parties and I’m not comfortable with this at all. I had thoughts with a 3 some with her, me and another woman but never made it an issue that we needed to explore but she makes me feel like it has to happen. The thought of her and many men not only is uncomfortable for me but also would not allow me to be happy with myself. I mean, why would she want other men? Am I that bad of a lover that she hasn’t said anything to me? I don’t feel as threatened by the woman because the way she acts to my penis tells me she loves men a lot. Even then I wouldn’t want this to be a regular thing. She is very sexual and had many more partners than I did but our love is supposed to mean more than this, or am I the last one in the world that thinks so? I told her no aut the men and she said she really wants to try the woman and it’s a big fantasy. She then hints that the sex with multiple men would probably happen after. Should I leave her?

Anonymous Man

MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Hey Anonymous Man, I’m going to go out and say do not engage in any activity that you feel will psychologically ruin yourself or your relationship and e very clear about that. If sleeping with other people is more important than the relationship than you should entertain other options. Seems like she calls the shots here buddy and there is not equality. Tell her again and make sure she knows you say it with passion that you are ok with the other woman but NOT ok with her parading around with multiple men. Take a stand and be firm, remind her what she means to you and what it would do to you. If she cares for you and loves you she will back down and find a common ground with you. If she is persistent and rejects your stance then let her parade around with a town of dicks in her mouth and you need to leave the relationship. Only a 100% jealous-free, trusting, concrete communicative situation can handle these acts without ever having doubts and with the comfort to be a couple and both enjoy this. It isn’t your thing, period. Stats show that many couples who over expose themselves to these acts do not last when one person has insecurities or jealousy. She may think these acts are 100% going to happen, and unless you take a stand, it’s looking like your girlfriend is about to become real popular.
 
 
Dear Mr. Lover Man
My year for my birthday my wife delivered the best birthday present ever. Her best friend in a 3 some. Now here is where I need your help. She had told me that the 3 some was fine, it was a onetime thing and I could not have vaginal or anal sex with her friend. Just oral and I was fine with it but now I feel unaccomplished and have this fantasy of having a full all out 3 some with her and her friend. How can I get her to agree to this?

Mike

 
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Hey Mike, first thing I want to say that you are somewhat of an inconsiderate bastard. Now that we got that out in the open, a part of me admires the fact that you realized what you like and wish to express it. Take into account the most important thing, YOUR WIFE. She gave you a gift, and I fear that wanting to push the envelope will somehow ruin the perspective of this gift in her opinion. She gave a gift to please you and that is beyond admirable of her, but, do you really want to tarnish that gift? Also does it have to be with the best friend? You can tell her about a dream you had or a fantasy you had that involves her going down on a woman while you penetrate her from behind and then her and the woman switching positions, which gives you the ability to test waters without involving her friend. That should be her call, not yours. Good luck and please think of her feelings throughout this process, she sounds great.
 
 
Dear Mr. Lover Man
This may sound weird to people but I know what I want. I want to use a strap on and give it to my husband from behind. He is not letting me and wont even let me lick his asshole or let me finger him, now how am I supposed to use my strap on with him when he thinks its gay nasty stuff?

Curious female


MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear Curious Female… First thing, there is absolutely nothing wrong with gay, so lets not use that in any form of negative connotation. People are people no matter what. There is a large wave of homophobia looming throughout the world still and there is a ways to go to get past that. Also you have to take into account that these are taught beliefs so he will feel his pride and ego challenged, his “Manhood” will be challenged and he may be a bit self-conscious. Now, you asked for my help, so here is what I think is the best way to approach the situation. Talk to him in a very nice manner, do not interrupt what he is doing but make sure its during an already active conversation you both are having. You have to set the mood for this, NIT sexual mood but a loving mood. Remind him what he means to you and how important it is to make each other happy. Down the road of the conversation ask him what would make him happy as far as sexual acts never tried, and be willing to oblige as you wish him to. Tell him how much it would drive you crazy if he allowed you this and reassure him of himself. You may have to perform the sexual performance of your life while trying to make him agree to this. LOL. Perform the most pornographic oral sex of his lifetime and make sure while playing with his balls you distract him enough to slip a wet finger back there in the most gentle way ever. Do NOT prod or probe, but lightly stroke the anus, he will definitely tighten up but then you make sure your oral skills are unmatched at this moment, then loosen your jaw enough to tell him how its turning you on and you promise not to do anything wrong. Reassure him how good this feels and how its turning you on. Men are easily distracted with oral sex. LOL. If this doesn’t work right away, you invest time into slowly stroking, licking, and even kissing in the area to build comfort. Good Luck anal Queen. LOL

 
Mr. Lover Man
I am 23 years old and I have been sucking dick since I was 16. I have to admit that I get a strong rush when swallowing cum. I probably swallowed like 20 different men. The things it does to me. Mmmm-Mmm-Good. Now my friend told me that I can get a bunch of std’s this way, is it true? Cause I use condoms in my vagina.

Anonymous


MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Hi Anonymous, Looks like someone was too busy swallowing nuts instead of attending health education classes at 16. Ok here goes in a nut-shell (no pun intended), YES YES YES you can get a series of STD’s from oral sex, whether giving or receiving. So many people don’t think that and use condoms during vaginal and anal penetration. Here are some STD’s you can get, and look them up and learn why you should NOT get them, unless your mouth is already the tunnel of STD-dom. Herpes, Hepatitis A,B and C, Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, Syphillis, Genital Warts and the grand daddy of them all…….. (Drum roll please…….) HIV. Yes HIV, which leads to AIDS. Hopefully you read up on these and it changes you appetite (pun intended) for swallowing. T is great to swallow but it is even better to swallow uninfected cum. Good luck.







To: Mr. Lover Man

I have a problem with orgasms and I think it is psychological. I am 30 years old and never experienced one. Is something wrong with me?

Sexless in Seattle



MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear “Sexless in Seattle” (love the name) I don’t want you to think something is wrong with you. There are many factors to an orgasmic climaxing. My first thing is to always seek the advice of a professional. Counseling and psychotherapy can help with the psychological block you may have. However, in the event it isn’t that, or if it is, here are some informative tips to help you reach that historic moment. First thing, one must e ale to communicate to the partner what one likes and e open-minded. Most women need lots if stimulation of their clitoris, men tends to forget that this is as important as the penis is to men. Have your man give some considerable amount of attention there. Also, cuddling, romantic settings and a strong loving environment can set the mood for an eventful climax. 20% of women can experience an orgasm thru petting and cuddling. 35% only experience it through sexual intercourse so please do not feel bad. Maybe you should take up some masturbation time and learn about your kitty kat, 50% of women experienced their first orgasm that way. Caressing breasts but not in an aggressive manner can lean towards helping climax. E an advocate of oral sex, make sure he is giving it to you as much or more than you are giving it to him. A good percentage of women (80%) can not have climax without oral sex as a part of their sexual experience. Let me say that you deserve to experience an orgasm just as much as he does. Let him learn to service you first as a routine of education, it tends to e habitual afterwards. It is important that when having intercourse that you try not to have your mind flooded with stressful thoughts, focus on the moment, make every sexual moment “The Moment”. Good luck

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