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So many times people are faced with tough decisions regarding their relationships and more times than I wish, we often make the wrong choices. We tend to use “love” as to some of the most pathetic excuses of we people stick around in some of the most degrading, abusive, neglectful and unfair relationships.
This excuse of “love” is usually not “love” at all and it is a form of emotional dependence. This is where people look to them as someone who fills a void, even when there isn’t one. Emotional dependents tend to use “love” as a false excuse to distract from unresolved emotional issues in ourselves and others. We all know that, in order to truly love someone, one must truly explore the love within self and learn to transfer this new found love for self to others. People place these emotional and mental restrictions on self and use “love” or the amount of time in a relationship as an excuse to endure pain. Its not a mature decision, nor does it help the self at all. Letting go is much stronger at times than holding on and lying to self that we are :“fighting” for something not worth fighting for. With that being said, I think that the following questions are something we either faced or know someone who has. Self-love can sound like a bunch of crap when someone is heartbroken, but in reality, self love is the greatest weapon in healing.
Dear Mr. Lover Man,
I am in a place in my relationship where I don’t know what to do. I want to run away but I know I cant make it without him. He makes more money than I do and I am used to this way of living. It started with the cheating and I think after a period of time I got numb to it, knowing I’m the one he comes home to. Some days I want to hide in a hole and never come out. Other days I feel so ashamed because it feels like everyone of his friends and family members know. It is embarrassing to me. Then those moments of feeling numb come and I have my “fuck it” attitude. This isn’t all that often though. How do I make him return to who he once was? I still love him but do I even stay and if not how do I leave? Help me, I am broken. Thanks, “The Broken Heart”
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear “The Broken Heart”,
There is an inner emotional fight here that you placed on yourself. Sadly you are now assisting him in keeping you captive. I want you to never say that you cant make it without that idiot. It does not matter about the financial situation and whoever makes more. This is about you, this is about being in a better situation. Before I even go on, ask yourself, do you even want to be in a better situation? Because I can give advice but you are the one that must take action. Never ask questions seeking a specific answer. Ask seeking the truth and the truth here is that you are in a highly abusive relationship and your mental/emotional dependence on this creep has made you unable to move forward. I always say “It is painful to leave but it is absolute torture to stay”. Consider that as you also take into account the risks of STD’s he is bringing to you night after night, think of the times you don’t know about that he has spent with women, think of how he treats you and use that as fuel to wanting better. A known fact is that an abusive relationship gets worse in time, never better. People can get help but you need to make your exit in order for him to want to help himself.
Understand that he does not love you. You are the at home person, the at home sex access, you are accessible to his power hungry needs, to his lies, abuse and to his feeling dominate in a world where I’m sure he doesn’t feel anywhere else. Take time to move forward, it wont be easy but it is rewarding when you are fully detached and ready for as better loving situation. Good luck and please keep me posted.
Dear Mr. Lover Man,
How is it that if someone loves you they can hurt you? I love my man and he really loves me deep inside but I don’t understand how he be flipping on me the way he does. He has been abusive towards me and I’m afraid that one day if he stops loving me he may kill me. I cant see myself without him. Its been 5 years I put into this and I don’t want it to be thrown away. I want it to be the way it was in the beginning and for him to realize I’m a good woman. Help me. “Love Got Me”
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear “Love Got Me”,
First of all, love did not “get” you, your inability to surface your self love or your inability to want more has held you as paralyzed as this piece of work you call your man. I understand that you feel 5 years has been “invested” and you don’t want to “throw it away” but in reality, its thrown away. All those times he hit you, those verbally abusive moments, all that has assured that this relationship has been “thrown away” a long time ago. No one’s soul mate hits them, no one’s soul mate abuses them. This is criminal and he should be incarcerated. What hit me hardest was how you believe he loves you and if he should stop, he would kill you. He does NOT love you, he is slowly killing you and you choosing to remain will assist in him killing you. Do not give this creep the power to continue his emotional/mental onslaught on you. Do not allow him to physically damage your outer beauty which assists in destroying your soul. Walk away, run away, call the cops, pick up, get help, search resources. They are out there. Please call 1-800-799 SAFE. That’s a national abuse hotline. I know others that it helped greatly. Keep me posted please.
Dear Mr. Lover Man,
I always read your tweets on twitter sometimes I either want to jump up and co-sign or I want to put my face in my hands and cry. You say things that affect me and my relationship and no matter what you say, I still stay here. I love my man and he loves me. He been through a lot so I tolerate more than I normally would but the thing that worries me is that for the last two years he has been doing the same stuff that almost breaks us up like cheating or not spending time with me, he is in the same money situation and his anger grows. I don’t like how he talks to me, he don’t hit me but he says some of the most painful things to me. Is there any repairing this or am I jut playing myself thinking this will get better? Signed, “Tired Lady”
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear “Tired Lady”,
Thank you for following me. Lets start this off by no longer assuming the level of love another has towards you without it being in action. In your situation, his cheating and his neglect of you does not sound like love to me. The way he talks to you does not sound like love to me. You need to try to find a ground to walk on where it will take you away from this abuse. I understand that maybe he has hit a few walls and his financial situation isn’t where he wants it but that is zero excuse for him to take his frustrations out on you. You ask is there repairing this? Many times there is no way. There is so much that needs to happen for there to be any hope of saving something here. He needs individual counseling and relationship counseling with you. He needs to want to find healing for him self and needs time to express his pains to a professional. You need to be able to express how you feel and not be criticized, not be talked down to and not be yelled at. You need a freedom for yourself that it doesn’t seem he is giving. Don’t mislead yourself, at this stage you both need help, you need to heal in order to ever forgive or accept him in a healthy way, and of course only after a lengthy time period of him being receptive and following through with help. Until then, you need to love self more, you need to live for self more and you need to communicate the healthy reasons for your decisions. In order to get more, you should be more. Please keep me posted. Wishing the best for you.
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Dear Mr. Lover Man:
Been in a relationship for last 7 years. He's not the person I met anymore. Any suggestions?
Before you answer, let me give you a little more background. We have two kids together. Were engaged but have called that off. .
We met while I was in college and it was magnetic. I thought I had finally found my soul mate. We both like the same types of movies, TV shows, music; he even watches Japanimations. Shortly, after being together for a year and having our first child I found out he was cheating on me. Needless to say, I packed up my baby and moved out. We broke up for about a month and the whole time he called me and said, "Baby, I'm so sorry. Please give me another chance." I finally broke down and talked to him. He convinced me that we could fix this and move forward with our lives as a family and promised never to do it again.
Just after the birth of our second child, I started getting the feeling that something was wrong just as it was before. I'd find earrings (I don't have pierced ears), clothing that wasn't mine would be tucked into different places. My neighbors informed me that they saw him coming and going with another woman. When I confronted him about it, he made it seem as though I was being insecure and that the neighbors only saw him with a female relative. Once I got my hands on some proof of his affair. He told me the woman was nothing more then a friend and that he would end all communications with her.
In June, I found out he was still messing around with the same woman. I got an e-mail basically telling me that I was messing up there situation and that I should leave him alone because he'd moved on. I was floored. We ended our engagement and I moved out. Now he's telling me that he's so sorry and to forgive and give him another chance. Same thing I heard last time. He's cheated twice and brought a baby home after one of the affairs. I don't really feel that same about him as I did before and I'm not sure if it’s because I'm over the time I wasted or what. I still love him that much I know but not as much as I use to. I don't know what to do. Please help
THANKS for the advice. Anonymous
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear Anonymous,
The "he's not the person he used to be" statement is usually true for everyone. Time changes and so do people.. At Times we can grow apart and at times we get past the courting period, that wonderful time in the first year where everything is beautiful and we see nothing but good or show nothing but good. Then these others parts of people tend to surface and we feel different. There is obvious a lot of reasons why not to be together and I don’t know of any that says you should remain. Having two kids isn't a reason so we can scratch that right off. The fact that he has injected another child outside this relationship and has cheated repeatedly (you only know of what you know) shows that he does not truly value you as the woman you are. The love has obviously lessened and it seems that nothings happening to falling love again. He has not shown you any true action to his “love” for you and his words should not be enough. DO people change? Yes they can, but they only change truly for themselves, not when threatened with losing a partner. That change is usually temporary. If you think you want him back (and I don’t see why) then you need to communicate strongly, ask him where does he stand, if he wants this to work what does he suggest should be done to make it better, you make sure you have suggestions to, ask him what will he do to help make it better and see how valid this is and ask yourself, can you live with it, if you will be happy then try, if not then fly. I say that to offer an option but I have a feeling that if you did take him back this would only repeat again. It is time to move on permanently and be happy. Right now if you're not happy those two wonderful kids won't be. I do wish the best of luck
Dear Mr. Lover Man,
Maybe it’s me, I cant seem to get past sex with guys. I am into them until I have sex with them, and no matter how good or bad the sex is I cant seem to stay interested other than that. I am concerned because of the amount of men I find myself with and I give in sexually too fast but I have needs and I’m at a point where I want to be more than sex but I’m not finding how to do that. Please help.
Thank you, The True Vixxxen
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear “The True Vixxxen”,
Obviously the “I have needs” line is a childish line and one that needs to be thought of when having an array of partners which heightens your risk of STD’s and whatever else you should be aware of. Your inability to see more than sex is most likely due to the fact that you go in head first sexually (no pun intended) and you do not even get a sense of who these men are and once you start sexually over the getting to know phase, more so than not, this doesn’t work. (Not always). Learn to take time to learn someone, do things that are not sexual, take walks, do dinner that doesn’t lead to automatic fluid swapping. Feel good talking about yourself and not just giving your body. Show more of you than the easy lay. This can make one feel devalued or give off the perception of a sense of devaluing (whether true or not). You will be surprised how much fun and interesting it is to learn more than bedroom tricks one can be. There is more to you as well, show that. Be more than the moment, be safe, live life. Enjoy different aspects and I promise you will enjoy sex more so than you even do now. I wish the best for you, please keep me posted on your first “learning” date.
Dear Mr. Lover Man
My ex boyfriend & i haven't been "official" going on two years now. We mutually ended the relationship b/c of infidelity on both ends. the problem is, we are still having sex and its GOOD sex. At first it really wasn't an issue for me but I’m starting to feel like I’m subjecting myself to a bottomless pit. The whole sex with no commitment thing seemed ok for a while but I’m ashamed that its almost been two years of it. I know I need to move on and put an end to this crap but I don't know how. It's like all he has to do is say the right words and I’m back in between his sheets. I still have love for him but I’m not in love with him at ALL! we've remained friends with benefits but its past time for me to cancel my subscription. - Anonymous
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear Anonymous,
Well, it is good that you recognize what the situation is, how you feel and that you need an exit. Sadly, your unwillingness to exit may have to do with you subconsciously hoping more occurs. You may want to only attribute this to good sex but knowing you subjected yourself to a “bottomless pit” and unable to let go may be attributed to how you subconsciously perceived your role in the relationship when it existed. I don’t know how he ever perceived it if sex is the only thing that seems to have survived. Two years of sex with no commitment is behind you, no dwelling on that unless you are using it as a tool to move on. The infidelities on both ends that led to this demise of something more than just sex are clear signs that in some form, this was always just sex, occasionally other things I’m sure but not over all. You have to really want something more for yourself, you have to see more for yourself and believe in more for yourself in order to begin to detach. You play a role in this. How you value yourself will determine your true willingness to exit. You are in control more than you think. Good luck and please let me know what happens.
Dear Mr. Lover Man,
I am having a few issues with the way I relate to females, or maybe the way they relate to me. I have mostly male friends and things have always been cool between us. We can talk about anything and they feel comfortable asking my opinion about females and any other subject. I am not a tomboy, I am very feminine & straight.
Over time I have had difficulties maintaining a relationship with a female. I have a few females in my life right now that I do lunch or dinner with. I have been in their weddings, coordinated baby showers & parties, shopping, etc. We confide in each other and it helps me to get the female perspective of life.
The problem is over the course of my entire life, some females have made me feel out of place. I am a very laid back person, I try to be a friend to everyone and I don't envy what anyone else has. I have my own style and a happy- go-lucky personality. Unfortunately, over time I have had to "shit-list" a few female friends for things such as trying to sleep with a significant other to putting me down unnecessarily. Recently at my job, I have has trouble out of unsolicited negative comments between female co-workers about me. These are people that I have always been friendly to, helped with work, trained and tied to be a friend to. I am dumbfounded by their behavior. I have gone around & around in my mind to find out why they really dislike me behind the scenes. I don't have a lot of money nor do I drive the finest car. But I am blessed, I carry myself like a professional and can't imagine what the problem could be. I would apologize if I knew.
What do you think?
Thanks, Adrienne
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear Adrienne,This is really not a fun situation to be in. Women can be very competitive with one another, I see it daily. From sneers to the woman walking in expensive or bold shoes to the rolling eyes at the female passing by with obvious confidence. Without these women even being known to the sneering party, it happens daily. I couldn’t give an exact reason to how this continuously happens throughout your life and how you cant find more female confidants. I do think that in all situations, everyone plays a role and maybe what you don’t see is that because this has happened to you so long you’re guarded with females or give off a new vibe you don’t notice, almost like a subconscious preparation for this welcoming. This may be what women see now (not saying definite). One can’t alter how others are but one can only focus on self and hope that’s enough. Other peoples jealousies or insecurities can lead to this but consider maybe you are playing a small role here. I really hope the very best for you and would love to hear that this has changed in time.
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Dear Mr. Lover Man,
The man I love told me he is not in love with me & we want two different things. I feel he lied because all this time I been telling him I love him and he been telling me he loves me back but he really never have meant it. I still love this boy to this day and I still want to be with him but I just want to get over him and not think about him at all. I keep trying to say the right things so he can come back to me but he still want to be with his ex and he still love her and I think that's what hurt the most. Thank you “Lost Love”
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear “Lost Love”,
Situations like this happen and so many times we associate this with a lost or wonder what we can do to win them back as if they are some gift and that is not the case at all. First thing that one must realize is that the education from the situation is the true gift, take time to assess and realize that one does not want to be chased by you so stop running after him. You need to step back and live your life. I know it sounds easier than it is but he made a decision and despite whatever words he lied to you about in the past, you can not live by those words and not live by his words that he wants his ex over you. Use the truth to detach. He is done with you, that may hurt but you need to want better for you and he is not that answer. No matter what “right things” you think you are saying, you need to do the right things for you. He is not for you. Love yourself more and be better for you. Good luck, please keep me posted
Dear Mr. Lover Man,
I broke up with my girl about a month ago, because I was unhappy with how things were going. We decided to work on ourselves for about a month, but she didn't work on herself, she stayed angry at me for 3 whole. We even tried no contact, and we that didn’t work, I only initiated contact once...And the other 2 or 3 times she contacted me first. She's told me she's changed for the better, and when I told her she needs to prove to me that she has changed, she said she can't because she "isn't ready". She says she doesn’t know what the future would bring, but she knew she couldn't do this right now. She told me she still loves me but she isn't in love with me as much as she used to be since we broke up. Do you think she will come back? Because I've always heard if she loves you, she will find her way back. What do you think? Appreciate it “”IDK Anymore”
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear “IDK Anymore”
Sometimes a break can make one realize that the best thing is not to return. Her statement of not being ready and no longer being in love the same are clear signs that she is entertaining opting out of this relationship and you should consider the same. One cant hold on to someone who doesn’t wish to be held. She isn’t ready and she may never be ready for you. She may find herself ready to move on elsewhere and it has been a month and to me time isn’t set in stone, so for everyone time differs, but the conversation of seeing other people should be made. You cant hold on if she is thinking of a permanent escape. Ultimately you have to be happy too and you wont be holding on if she doesn’t want you. Of course she may want to return to your arms but you need to communicate about other alternatives to know more or less where you stand because at this point she seems to be most clear about not being ready for you. I wish the best for you. Please keep me posted.
Dear Mr. Lover Man,
I was in a good relationship which, for me, ended from one day to the next. It didn't take my ex more than 3 weeks to find himself a new romance. In the mean time while he is off with his new romance, I am a wreck-not eating, sleeping little, and feeling bitter by his actions.
I asked people and the most common excuse I've heard for my ex's behavior is "Well, he can move on faster because in his mind it's been over a while so he prepared for it"
Is that supposed to justify his actions and make how they end the relationship without fault? I'm very interested to hear your perspective on this? Where is the accountability? “What About Me”
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear “What About Me”,
Sometimes not knowing is something that will be the way it will permanently end. There are however possible reasons for his sudden actions and one could be very well what people are offering as a common answer and that is that he already processed it was over. He may have done so long before the actual “sudden” break-up so for him to break-up from one day to the next was not so sudden to him as it was to you. Seems like lack of communication, definitely on his part but I wonder if on yours as well. Does this justify his actions? Depends on the aspects of the relationship, if you were cheating, or doing things of that nature then he had no reason to honor you by justification, however, if you tried your best and he just wasn’t into you then the honorable thing to do would be to communicate. Reality is that many people (men & women alike) are not the most honorable persons they could be. So where does that leave you? Well first thing is that you may consider counseling of some for, because your actions of sleep & eating deprivation worries me. His choice to move on may be heart breaking but its his choice. Time waits for no one and as harsh as that sounds, you need to consider your next move without him. You are wonderful and you need to love yourself again, and love yourself even more than ever. Do things you always wanted to do and didn’t and make this healing process about you. Prepare for tomorrow, do not carry yesterday with you because it weighs too much and will hold you down. Want more and be more and you will get more, that I promise. Good luck with everything, please stay in touch.
Dear Mr. Lover Man,
My ex and I had a good relationship, there was a good balance. For no apparent reason, out of no where, one day he stopped talking to me. I tried to talk to him but he told me he needed to focus on finals. A month later he broke up with me for no reason. He told me something vague. Then he told me we're not compatible, which was crap. Though I am sure he wasn't dating anybody else. I think he's immature. We had minimal socialization in the time period away. One day after a month I was walking by him and his friends and they were saying some stupid stuff and laughing loudly whenever I would walk past them. Even when we were together he flip flopped from being a true gentleman and sometimes laughing at me for not knowing certain things he knows.
Now, a year later he sends me a message asking me if it'd be too much to ask to be friends with me.
I don't get it. And I don't know if I must respond to it or not. I do really like him, but I don't know if this is just a game, in which case I want nothing to do with it.
Did he finally realize we were good together? Or is this for a booty call?. Help please. Anonymous
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear Anonymous,
Don’t go ahead of yourself here with the misleading. Even wondering if all of a sudden he may have “realized” you guys were good together can lead you to further heart break. There is a strong chance that is not the case and that’s perfectly fine. You need to remember that on more than one occasion he has abandoned you or mocked you and although there are good points, it appears the bad outweighs them. He has not even made any indication to want anything more than friendship and I’m not sure how much of a friend he would be. He may abandon you when you need to talk, it isn’t the friendship I need nor would want. Not in the least. As for his sudden leaving, if he doesn’t give you solid reason then just accept the truth that he abandoned you without forewarning and realize you deserve better and you are warranted much more. You can NOT wait for Mr. Wrong to turn into Mr. right, you do not owe him a response and if you choose to, be very clear about the relationship you choose to enter, whether friendship, or associates. Don’t re-enter leading with your heart because he sure as heck isn’t. You need to solidify that you are healing so you do not enter wounded and susceptible to being his prey. Be strong, always remember your true worth and be more always. Good luck, keep me posted.
Note to all Answer Seekers: There very well have been signs in each and every one of your relationships that we often ignore, misinterpret or see late. Question these signs always, dont mislead yourself or ignore them. I wish the best for you all.
Dear Mr. Lover Man,
My question is not an easy one. Here goes my story, I was in a relationship with this woman for 3 years, then one day she decided to break up with me and that same week she just got with some dude who she met online while being with me and moved in with him that week. They were together for about a year and me and her became friends somewhat. She confided in me that he treats her badly and talks to her like she is worthless. It hurts me because I still love her, she has changed somewhat because now she has been sleeping with men and says it’s because of the hurt she is going through in her relationship. I am one of them men she has slept with and I want to attempt to work it out but now she wants to just run and relocate to another state. What do I do to get her to work things out with me? I’m confused. Thank you, Will I Am Not.
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear “Will I AM Not”,
There is a problem here that you are not highlighting and I do not know if it is because you simply do not see it or do not see it. Your ex has issues, and her issues stem from well before this guy who treats her bad. She obviously created a dialogue with a person while with you. Played you for a period of time until she could make her escape to another man’s residence and this time she hit a wall. There must be something in her past that suggests the type of person she is and maybe you didn’t take the time out to learn your partner well enough. Never fret, this is educational and you need to learn to take care of what’s best for you. As for you trying to convince her of not making the move, for all you know she could have plotted this same behavior again and has some other online guy in another state waiting for her arrival. You can’t be “Captain Save Em”. She doesn’t choose to pursue you or any other man in your neighborhood for anything more than sex and maybe a place to live, however, what about your heart? What about your happiness, do you not feel you deserve more than this. Her sleeping with men has absolutely nothing to do with one guy treating her bad. Did you treat her bad when she decided to just lave unannounced one day and into the residence of another man? You need to talk to a professional, have a session, learn your full value, wear that value and attract a good woman that will love, honor & cherish you as you should her. Good luck and keep me posted.
Dear Mr. Lover Man,
I am dating this guy that has a baby’s mother and I’m confused because I don’t know what to make of the situation. They seem to get along well, I wonder if it is too well. They act like good friends and her man and my man even act like they are friends. We all have gone out and it’s not like he gives any of them more attention than me, but I never really see this and I wonder what is really going on. I mean, if they this cool, and then should I be worried that she and him have a chance to get back together? Thanks for responding. Anonymous
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear Anonymous,
You should not be emailing me this, you should be taking this time to push your man in bed and give him the thank you of a lifetime. What you have is a very mature situation where two people realized they are better as friends and parents and have no intention of going past that. Never bring thoughts from other situations into that. This is an individual situation worthy of bragging. The fact that your man and her man are cool is maturity on a level all parents who do not wish to pursue a relationship should be on. You are welcomed into a world of love. The child is blessed to have this “family” and I can see where your concern comes in but I always like to say “If you look for negativity, you will find it, even if it DOESN’T exist.” These situations are a model situation and wish the total best for you all. Please keep me posted, I have a feeling that once you get past these thoughts, your relationship will enhance tenfold.
Dear Mr. Lover Man,
I have been with my boyfriend for 4 months and I am wondering why he hasn’t let me meet his 5 year old son yet. I’m wondering if his son even knows that his father has a girlfriend. I want to be more with him but I feel like he just doesn’t let me into that part of his life and isn’t that important? I want to ask him but I don’t know how. Should I ask him or wait, it has been four months. Much Thanks. Kima
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear Kima,
I see where your concern comes in, however, it is unwarranted. The time of your relationship may not sit well with your boyfriend in accordance with an introduction of his son. His son being 5 years old makes this a security issue as well. I can see your eagerness to “solidify” this relationship by being a part of his most precious world and it is understandable but a parent must always be careful. Ask about his son, show concern, and ask about his son’s likes and dislikes. These are ways of showing genuine concern and enable a parent to feel it from within. Four months or 14 months doesn’t warrant a meeting, but the level of concern and love expressed does. Trust me, instead of asking when you will meet him; make him want you to meet his son with your heart. Good luck with everything, please keep me posted.
Dear Mr. Lover Man,
I don’t know if I should be upset or not but when my girlfriend goes out with her female friends she gets kind of drunk and she tends to have their short kissing sessions with her friends and or these body touching moments where her and her female friends touch each other’s body parts. I don’t know how to take this, should I take this as a tease and ask for a three-some, should I be upset that she is doing this with another, even though it’s women? I’m really confused and don’t know what I’m supposed to be feeling. Can you shed some light? Mr. Confused Boyfriend
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear Mr. Confused Boyfriend,
First thing you have to acknowledge is how you feel. That will give you a ledge on where to go with this situation. Once you are more familiar with this then bring a conversation of it. If it turns you on tell her that you love to watch her kiss women, and that because you take part in kissing her you really never viewed it. Express your curiosity of her feelings and thoughts and how far is she into it. If you have dislikes about this then you need to address that ASAP. Never allow that to fester and build within because then it will come out to be negative and destructive and you do not want that. I cannot tell you what you are supposed to be feeling but being that she does this in front of you can mean many things, it can be that she is simply a bad drunk and can’t make reliable decisions, it could be that she wants you to know another side of her and being drunk is the best way to comfortably show you, or it could be that she wants involvement from you. I know that in order for you to find out, you are going to need to communicate with her. Having effective communication will open her up to how she is feeling and you will learn more on how you are feeling. No matter what way it sways, you will learn something you need to learn. Good luck and keep me posted.
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Dear Mr. Lover Man,
How can one increase the sexual activity in a relationship that seems to have reduced in the course of time? Between working long shifts and my husband working shifts, its either we are too tired or finding ourselves in position to cover everything else to maintain the home. What can I do to spark the relationship exually again? This is a 12 year relationship with the last 2 years dull in the sack if in the sack at all. Thank you much. “I Want That Old Thing Back”
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear “I Want That Old Thing Back”,
This seems to be more common than anyone wants and there are ways to conquer without abandoning the relationship. Communicate these issues, don’t nag them, don’t make a complaint into a denate, speak about concerns and try to implement solutions, like maybe you guys may want to consider making a special “sex day” where you post it on the refrigerator, it can heighten sexual pleasure as these days get closer. Also never be afraid to stop him in the middle of his tracks for a quickie, bring that explosiveness back. The best quickies are before work, not even coffee can start your day better. Do things you once did in your earlier stages of dating, leave little notes of love and appreciation. Buy fancy underwear and pop up out of nowehere while he is on the couch (not during the super bowl ha ha) and just straddle him. Do not allow him time to talk, learn him again and make him remember whats missing. Make a date to go out and do things that are not sex related, feel his passion and love again, talk, renew your vows unofficially. There are so many ways to revive what seems to be a sexually frustrated relationship. We seem to feel time is aginst us, but we can always squeeze time in if it means that much to us. Good luck and please keep me posted.
Dear Mr. Lover Man,
I don’t know what im doing wrong but my girl told me she gets turned on by fingering her, so I try to do that and im thinking im doing something wrong because she doesn’t seem too thrilled by it. Maybe im doing something wrong. What do you suggest because I really want to please her, she is the love of my life and she is my only partner, I am 21 and she is 25 and we have been together 9 months and I really want to make her happy. Is there like a special fingering move I can learn? Thanks from “Handy Man”
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear Handy Man,
Well, first thing, I commend you for your willingness to be unselfish and wanting to please your partner the best way possible. Before I give any form of advice or any description on how to position your fingers, make sure you always communicate when in doubt (or not in doubt). Ask her how she feels, communicate before hand and tell her you want to learn to please her and need her guidance until you perfect it. It is her body, it is the woman you confess your love to, so why not speak about it? Communication is the most vital part of any relationship. Now try this here, inserting your index finger and your middle finger slowly, making sure she is either self lubricated or assisted you want to have those two fingers belly up. You want to make sure the middle finger finger reaches as far as you can alsmost to the belly button where you will feel what is now being considered the “A-Spot”, this is a zone of pleasure, at the same time your index finger will be bent slightly so not to reach as far as the middle, where you will be at the “G-Spot” while having your thumb right outside in a thumbs upposition playing with the clitoris. This not only touched 3 vital points of pleasure but will definitely enhance whatevers next to come. Don’t be savage about it, allow her to dictate the amount of pressure and speed required for her pleasure and you will become the king of the golden hand. Good luck with everything.
Dear Mr. Lover Man,
How can I convince my boyfriend to let me tie him up or handcuff him to the bed. This is really something that I get my most sexual pleasure from but my man is really not trying to budge. I mean we been together for 3 years, he should trust me, I would let him do it, what should I do to get him to pleasure me by letting me do this? Thanks a million, “Lisa”
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear “Lisa”,
This can be a hard sell, but before you try to become sales person of the year, take a few things in consideration, have you communicated about his level of trust, maybe he has been traumatized at some point and he hasn’t been able to discuss this and that’s why being unable to have the ability to roam free at will may not be the turn on it is for you. Is it impossible to get him to try it? Of course not. Will this guarantee he will try it? Of course not. However, it will open up some areas of much needed communication that has been lacking in your world. You assume he should trust you, and maybe he does but does he trust the situation? Ask him. You say you would let him do it, but have you offered it? You should, you should introduce videos of the same nature while expressing what it is that turns you on and how your being turned on will benefit his sexual pleasure. You seem to have just wanted it done but you need effective communication, try thoat and you may just have your wish. Don’t forget to have a spare key for those handcuffs. Good luck with everything.
Dear Mr. lover Man,
Why does it seem that all the sexual fun is in the begginning then it gets boring? I have been with 4 different men in my life and cant be sexually satisfied with them past two years. What can happen to keep me interested longer than two years? I really find the same few positions boring and although those are my faorites, it isnt like he is going to change his width, size or strength in his stroke. It gets boring and I need someone new but I really love this guy and don’t want to keep sleeping around. What is the best thing to do? “Two years is not enough”
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS Dear :”Two years is not enough”
Unfortunately, in many relationships the participants allow the fire to dim. You play a role as well, it isnt about your partners ability to grow in ways that are not possible, or for him to gain a super human pump strength to fit your new found needs overnight, it is about your willingness to communicate and want it to enhance so much that you invest in communication and you become willing to also try new things outside of the few positions deemed your favorite. Make it spicier, be more spontaneous, talk more, grab him out of no where, pin him to the wall, service him, have him return it. Be willing to watch movies and be educated together on the willingness to invite new sexual positions, toys, foods, etc into your relationship. Be more than those constant two years you deliver/receive. Men and women both are not as sexually educated as they wish, many arent fully aware of their bodies sexual potential or the full potential the body feels in pleasure. Sex can and often does heighten the chemistry and is healthy for the relationship. Be more than sex with your partner, but when you are sex, be fun, new, spontaneous and amaze him. This will infect him with the equal willingness to do so in return.
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Dear Mr. Lover Man,
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear “Looking for forgiveness”,
First, you have to be aware that your boyfriend is still overwhelmed by a traumatic situation such as your cheating and being impregnated by the next man. It is obvious that its still holding a huge impact in his relationship with you and one can never give an exact time period for healing, however, there are ways to speed it a little bit. He deserves to be relieved of this trauma and to be able to play a healthy role in a relationship. The sex is different because he sees you different, because he feels different, there just very well may be a thought of you and the next man and that leads to his unloving aggression sexually, sort of him letting out the frustration. It isn’t right on either party to endure and you guys need to either consider ending this or communicating better to fix this. Counseling is something I highly recommend and I hope you guys seriously look into that. Sadly your horrible decision to cheat had consequences that affect you both deeply and until he can accept this without problem, this will always be an issue and the anger may grow and the arguments even more nastier than it is now. Communicate more effectively, admit you are wrong and how much you know you hurt him, offer the willingness to get counseling and admit the lengths you are willing to go to save this relationship on your part, if you truly feel its worth saving. I wish you guys the best. Please keep me posted.
Dear Mr. Lover Man,
I was dating my ex boyfriend for 3 years. And I am convinced of his love for me. No man has ever treated me as such a lady. I am writing this knowing this is all my fault and I just want help. In the beginning he told me he was the jealous type but was working on it and I would purposely do things to play on his jealousy. Every time we had a disagreement or argument I would threaten to leave. I guess he got tired of it because the last argument we had, he actually packed my things and told me to leave. I never wanted to break-up and I realize that now. My heart needs him back, I come to see him here and there but he tells me that me coming around isn’t good for the break-up. I want him back, what do I do? Thanks “Break up to Make up”
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear “Break up to Make up”,
I guess this is a great case of “calling your bluff”. I think your childish antics have caught up with you. Your purposely making him jealous took away from time you could have been loving him, which would have increased your chances of being together right now. Your constant threats of leaving probably made him feel like you always wanted a way out, instead you should have showed him how much you wanted to stay. Hopefully this is a true lesson learned and one that can be recovered from. Don’t just wallow in your own sorrow, communicate with him better, don’t just ask him back, be more proactive and show him. Take responsibility for whatever role you played that ended the relationship. Don’t mention or focus on his role or part, you must sincerely address yours and yours alone. Stay focused on your goal and be totally honest with yourself and him always. Good luck and please keep me posted.
Dear Mr. Lover Man,
My fiancé and I are due to be married next year. We been together 4 years and engaged about 6 months. He has always been uncomfortable with the fact that my ex and I are friends. I tell him not to worry but he doesn’t like us hanging out alone. I never saw a problem with it until he and his ex began a friendship and them hanging out alone irritates, annoys, angers the hell out of me. Am I being a hypocrite for this? I am willing to end my friendship with my ex if he would with his but he isn’t willing to do so. What can I do to fix this? Sincerely, “He’s Mine”
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear “He’s Mine”,
I guess this is one of those karma moments or one of those what goes around moments, however, this really makes me wonder, why would you now give up a friendship you weren’t willing to give up before? Sounds suspicious to me, I mean if this is just an innocent friendship you had, why offer to execute it? Just because you feel the same uncomfort he did? This is suspect, however, this can be resolved with strong communication. Tell how you feel and how you understand how he felt, reassure him of the nature of your friendship in total honesty. I used to always say, only worry about it if you were doing something you shouldn’t in your situation. If your friendship was innocent then it cant possibly be so far fetched to believe his is innocent as well. As for if you are being a hypocrite, well one could say yes but that is not relevant right now, right now what’s relevant is communication that is not accusatory or not angry. Express honest feelings and be mindful his constant uncomfort of your friendship did not end your friendship so you cant possibly expect the same. Maybe there can be a common ground, maybe you all can go out together, break the ice and allow everyone to feel comfort with one another. Hope this works out for the best, please keep me posted.
Dear Mr. Lover Man.
My boyfriend cheated on me and purposely was sloppy about it, then tells me he only did it because I had done it to him a year prior to that. I think that was childish and just plain out right ignorant of him. When I made my mistake it was a year ago. Like, why would you do that now? What should I do? He says now I know what he felt and that now we can move on. I don’t know what to do. Thanks “Confused”
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear :Confused”,
I think you both are childish in both of your decisions. I think that he thought it was right but instead now there may be two broken bitter hearts when there should have been none and one thanks to you. Cheating is disgusting and horrible at all levels, as I’m sure you feel now that he has cheated. For the record, this can be survived if you both are serious about healing from these wounds and becoming one again. Be the better person and admit your wrong doings, admit how you feel and what you will do to reassure him your actions will never repeat itself with cheating. Also suggest couples counseling and ask how he feels about it. Allow him the chance to express himself and learn your partner. Learn from this and hopefully you both grow from this. If it doesn’t seem like you both can get over this then you will have to consider the option of breaking up. Hopefully the best for you both comes out of this. Please keep me posted
I have the scars that remind me every day of what abuse can do to people’s lives and I use plural here because abuse does not just affect one person at a time. Even if you think it’s only your problem it’s not. Abuse comes in all forms from physical to emotional to mental and let me tell you right now after everything I endured the worst was the emotional and mental scars and bruises that still sometimes bleed. When I think about men, women, children, anyone getting abused my blood boils over and I want to grab the victims and hold them in my arms and take them away from all the pain they are enduring. However, I know I can’t save anyone; they can only save themselves because I was the only one who could save me as well. This blog was hard for me because I wanted so bad to protect our writers and take them out of their situations because I know that things will only get worse for them and it scares me but what you must understand readers is that you must find strength inside yourself now. Abuse is not something to brush aside and take lightly. It is not just a man issue either, women do it to, it happens in the LGBTQ community as well and it happens to children too. If you need help or you are in a situation that you don’t know how to get out off you can contact me and I can help you find resources to help you get out. Just remember no matter what your ties are to your abuser, children, family, money, love, whatever it is, none of these are good enough excuses to stay because your life is more important that any of these things.
To flee is life, to linger, death.
-McBooBoo
Dear Mr. Lover Man,
I am afraid. My husband hurts me. I know you will tell me to call the cops but I can't. I have a 2 year old child that needs his father. I am at my wits end and losing my mind. He physically abuses me to the point that I do not even cry no longer. He doesn't even talk to me like I don’t exist. He has went to the extent of raping me & I'm so destroyed that I think I can only have sex with him when he does that, I need to feel raped to find pleasure. Everything in me tells me he will kill me one day. Then I look in my son’s eye and I know he needs his dad so I sacrifice so he can have both parents. Sad thing is he doesn't do his father duties, but I know how he was when he did &he was good. Where do I go from here? Signed "Clipped Wings"
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear “Clipped Wings”, I could not tell you how this reaches me; I could not express enough the severity of your need to get away from his brutal clutches. Your husband is a vile and disgusting male and his abuse to you is not only unwarranted but of some of the most horrific nature. At any point I need you to know that you do NOT deserve this nor do you share any part of him making the decision to do this to you. I need you to re-read and believe that. I can sense a strong level of damage and yet I don’t want you to feel damaged. You need to look into your sons eyes and not see that he needs his father but remind yourself of the mother he needs, the mother who is assuming both roles as this disgusting male (he doesn’t deserve the title of man) destroys lives. The list of victims will increase as your child will be subjected to his brutal onslaught. Love does not exist in this man’s world. There comes a point where one must incarcerate, not just for the safety of self but the safety of all his future victims and maybe the past ones who haven’t spoken. This situation isn’t seasonal and the fact that he intends to demoralize you speaks volumes as to who he truly is. I need you to dig deep and find the Queen you are, I need you to be your sons protector, to be a warrior even if for a moment and call the authorities. Please do not allow him the power he has taken from you and others, please do not give him any chance to destroy. Look into your child’s eyes and do not look for his father any more, that man chose to abandon your heart and deliver evil, I need you to look for the safety and love of yourself and your child and make the call. Seek help for self and talk to professionals, this burden can be heavy but you will never be alone. Don’t choose to remain in his dungeon of life. The sun shines for you if you choose to stand in its light. I need you to please do so.
McBooBoo Says: Dear Clipped Wings,
Even though you think your wings have been clipped permanently I’m here to tell you that they grow back. In the meantime here is what you need to think about in your situation because I have been in your shoes; the only thing missing is that my child never made it to see his mother because of the abuse of his father. Thankfully you have a beautiful 2 year old son that has a wonderful mother that needs her more than anything right now because even though you think you won’t be able to leave him you are going to have to for the sake of your child and for you. You must leave your husband because this foreboding feeling of doom that you feel is the truth, he WILL either end up killing you one day or harming? Get out now! I’m begging you. You still have your wings and even though you feel you have been left for dead and sold up river, you are stronger and better than that and better than him. No matter how jaded, how stoic, how hurt and empty you feel right now, the love you have for your son will help you find the love you have for yourself again but in order to find that you have to get away from the source that took everything away from you. There are so many resources, people and places that can help you with all the details so there are no excuses not to save you and your son from this. You have to look at in as a life and death situation. If someone was trying to hurt your son you would do everything you could to protect him right? Well that is the same case here expect you are also going to protect yourself as well. You have the right to life my dear as does your son, you have the right to be the beautiful angel that you are and spread your wings and fly away and smile again and truly mean it! Get your wings back and take flight! - McBooBoo
McBooBoo, you hit it on the nail. I fear that he will definitely kill or severely physically harm to the point of disability. As always your words have the power of experience and I hope “Clipped Wings” understands that this doesn’t have to end with him. Her wings will blossom again when she chooses permanent detachment from this situation.
Mr. Lover Man, Beautifully put. You are a Queen remember that and in this situation you play the King too. My mother was a single Mom and did brilliantly don't be scared of raising your child alone. First because you may not have too and second because your child is better off without a father if his father is that vile of a creature. Most men that beat other women were taught these actions but their fathers and so on and so forth. This is sad but true. Children need to be taught important lessons early on and these are your child's most important years. So look into his eyes, hold him close, and sore into the air with those wings I know you have and take him away from this cruel world. After you have made your escape find yourself again. It's easy to use your son as a reason to leave and it’s a great reason but also understand that you are just as important and just as beautiful. You need to save yourself as well and find yourself again. To end I will leave you with one of my most favorite quotes that helped me through my years in my abusive relationship: No one can make you feel inferior with your consent - Eleanor Roosevelt
Hi, Mr. Lover Man.
This is my problem: My boyfriend of 3 yrs has a hitting problem. Maybe it is cause his parents use to beat him. Idk. He hit me 3 times and he apologizes & I can see how sorry he is. He even cried the 1st time and said he won't no more but he done did it 2 more times and idk if he will stop. I love him so much & when we not fighting he is a sweet man. I tried to bring up counseling but that's when he hit me the 3rd time. I don't want to leave cause he needs me and I love him. How can we get help? ~Anonymous
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear Anonymous,
This situation is looking like it will grow for the worst. We tend to look at time like the investment it is but add the sense of how much time as an excuse for tolerance. Whether 3 years or 30 years, a man (or woman) should never hit another. Even if he has done this 3 times or 300 times there ios absolutely no excuse for these acts of ruthless hateful aggression. His 3rd hit when you brought up counseling is a clear indication that this man is not willing to get help and/or the fact that he may have accepted this as the norm and this will continue to worsen for you or anyone he gets involved with next. You need to get authorities involved and show zero tolerance for his actions. I get questioned about whether real men exist often and yes they do, you want to know the best way for you to find one? Leave this bully, this hateful piece of trash and incarcerate him. Love does NOT hurt people, people choose to hurt others. No one beats and abuses someone they love. We need to understand that he is at a crossroads in his life where it is slowly progressing for the worse. You claim to love him, and then force him into help with incarceration. Force him to see the hurt he inflicts, and you need to detach in permanence because you have a beautiful life to live. If we don’t put ourselves first, we could never truly help others. Please seek professional help to walk you through this. Please keep me posted.
Let’s first start off with making a quick change to one thing you said, “My boyfriend of 3 yrs has a hitting problem.” My dear this is not a problem, like irritable bowel disease or snoring in his sleep. He hits you, he BEATS you, this is a habit, something that is not going to change, something that he learned from his parents, something that was taught to him and something that he feels he has a right too. He can cry and say he is sorry all he wants but those tears will never wash away the bruises he left on your face or arms. It will never take away the emotionally damage he has given you already. Those tears and apologizes mean nothing when the actions continue and they will continue. My ex of 6 years did the same back and forth games yours is doing and it never stopped. I also tried to get US help when in reality it his all HIM honey that needs the help, not YOU. You need to help yourself now and get out of this relationship. It’s not worth your time, your effort or your love anymore. You need to love yourself now and focus on you. Leave his hitting problem to someone else. He is a big boy; let him pick on someone his own size.
McBooBoo, sadly this punk will not pick on someone his size, nor will he ever show love to her as he evil festers within and will continue to be unleashed as long as it is tolerated and allowed. You are very right; she needs to take action and leave
MLM, I agree. Call the cops now or the next time he does it and show him how strong you really are. In the meantime if he doesn't want to go to counseling go yourself. You know why he beat you when you brought it up right? Because he is scared of losing you and getting in trouble for what he has done to you. My ex did the same thing to me when I started going to counseling, even had the nerve to tell me he was the only counselor I needed. Don't let him trap you and take you away from your friends and family either. Get yourself help and get away from him now while you still can. He is nothing but a bully but even my conservative mother still told me if someone hits you first you better hit back and make sure they never do it again. What I mean by that is call the cops and make sure he never does it again. -McBooBoo
Dear Mr. Lover Man.
This has to stay anonymous please. I made this fake e-mail because I am afraid to tell my family or friends. I wouldn't even tell you if you knew who I am. I was raped by someone I thought was my best friend. We were drinking and I don't know if that's the reason but I wasn't as drunk as him & remember everything. We been friends for so long & although we joke about sex or he always hated on guys I was with, I never saw this happening. He knows everything about me & our families are close& I'm scared that this would hurt a lot of people if i said something. I been avoiding him because I feel hurt & betrayed. He tried apologizing but how can he really be sorry? Should I tell my family and his family? "No Name"
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear "No Name",
At no moment should you ever take into consideration how other people will feel if you reveal the truth. Think about how someone will feel if he is allowed to do this to others? You need to; you must expose his actions for the atrocity he committed. You do not ever deserve this and his true disgusting quality showed at the moment he let it run its course. He may have always planned this; he may have slowly tried to pick his spot so to speak and attacked when he felt he could get away with it. He befriended you, betrayed you and harmed you unlike another. This is no "friend" I would ever want. You need to expose him and if others can't accept it, at least take solace in knowing that you could have possibly prevented future rapes. Please never hold this in. This is to serious to ignore. Please keep me posted
McBooBoo Says: Dear No Name,
Understand even though you have no name to us here, you have a voice and it needs to be heard. I know you are scared, terrified and even embarrassed but most women are raped by men that they know, whether that be a husband, boyfriend or best friend. I was raped twice by two different boyfriends and by two different men who were suppose to love me and who were part of my friend and family circles. I didn’t tell anyone for over 10 years because of fear, shame and embarrassment but when I finally did the freedom of having a voice was better than living a lie and living in fear. My friends and family also understood!! I know! I didn’t think that would happen either but they will love, they will. And if they don’t you know who your true friends are. This friend is NOT your best friend, was never your friend and was never more than a disgusting liar and user. You deserve to live again and live a life of happiness and truth. Not of lies and fear because of horrible thing that someone else did? Would you also go to jail for him too? No you wouldn’t, so don’t live like you are. Have a name again and live my dear. -McBooBoo
McBooBoo, I couldn't have said it better, she definitely has a voice. I only hope she understands the importance of using it & also the importance and strength of her next steps
MLM, The only thing I want to add is that I had a friend tell me that my ex also did not love me and that there was no way possible he could have loved me after all he put me through. However I beg to differ because people love in so many ways. However the love he gave was not TRUE love and not healthy love. You may think this is the right love and yes he may love you and you may love him but this is not how love should be. I just wanted to clarify on that point because I remember I was really upset when my friend told me that because I knew my ex loved me just not in the right way if that makes sense. So understand that you may have the feelings of love, obsession, lust, etc but this is not how a relationship should be. Love should never feel like this, it should never hurt, bring fears, make you feel afraid. Love is kind and patient, it's honest and truthful and caring and understanding. You should feel happiness and freedom and joy and you should be able to be yourself at ALL times.
Dear Mr. Lover Man,
My boyfriend hits me. It took me days to get that sentence out. He hits me and he talks to me like I am worth nothing. I follow you on twitter and I see you are always talking about self worth and I always cry when I read the things you say because I know you are right. Why can't I take that big step to get out of this situation? I love him and I know he loves me but he hits me every time I try to correct him or tell him something he doesn't want to hear. I just don't say anything anymore. It’s safer for me. I'm afraid to do wrong. Why can't we just go back to where we were when we shared love all the time? He won't get help. Help me. Thank you "Tears
MR. LOVER MAN SAYS: Dear "Tears",
My heart cries out for you and everyone in your position but that is not enough. We need to make strong strides right now. We need to take a stand and understand that this illusion u call love is NOT real. He does NOT love you, there is no way humanly possible that he can treat someone he professes to love I'm such a disrespectful manner. He is owning you, he is trying to strip you of your voice, of your dignity, of your power and the longer you stick around the easier he will have converted you from blossoming flower to just a piece of property and maybe worse. Some people treat their property better than he is treating you and this must end. Your next moves will not just determine the direction of your life but the right move by leaving him & incarcerating him will send a clear message of your true worth & that this is unacceptable. You are a hero for doing so as you are preventing him from doing this to others. Please don't think I don't understand how hard it is to speak out against this. It is hard. The moment you do, you will be taking the power back. You are beauty, you are a Queen and there lies a great man in your path towards greatness. Please keep me posted.
McBooBoo Says: Dear Tears,
The fact that you even were able to find the strength to come to us in the first place is amazing and shows me you can get yourself out of this. You have courage and strength inside of you, probably more than you realize. He talks down to you because he wants you to believe you are worthless. Why? Because that is the only way he can keep you with him. He is pathetic and worthless himself. My ex did the same thing to me. Think about it. Women who get beat are usually some of the strongest women and you would never expect them to take it. If your best girlfriend was getting hit you would probably want to kill her boyfriend. I know I would. But when it was happening to me I thought I deserved it because HE told me I did and made me feel that way. Well my love, YOU DO NOT DESERVE IT. You are a worthwhile, amazing, STRONG woman and you need to realize this. To live a life where you have to walk on eggshells everyday because you are afraid to breath wrong is a horrible existence. I have been there and lived that life and honey let me tell you life is so my sweeter, so much more fulfilling without someone who won’t love you for you and won’t let you be who you are. He is so insecure about who is he that he has to beat you and bring you down. That is not someone who cares about you that is a selfish, pathetic human being. Whether you love him or he loves you doesn’t matter anymore. Love doesn’t hurt, love doesn’t hate and love does not trap. Remember this quote by John Wayne “Courage is being scared to death - but saddling up anyway.” Saddle up my love and dry those tears. Ride off into the sunset with a real prince charming and leave this beast behind.
- McBooBoo
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